Intentional {Acceptance} ~ Why I Had No Clue Who I Was…

{Why I Had No Clue Who I Was…}

I had no clue who I was because I wasn’t asking the source of who I am.


I asked friends and family, neighbors and acquaintances.  I relied upon opinion and conjecture, perceptions and thoughts.

Some words were uplifting and encouraging, all of which I appreciated.  Others defeated and deflated me, leaving me lacking ~ greatly in need.  Unfortunately, my need turned to void, void caused me to speculate, my speculation caused me to doubt which ended in me having no clue who I was.

My people pleasing nature worked in favor of my clueless living.  You need me to be funny, I’m funny.  You need me to be an attentive listener, I’m all ears.  You need me to believe, sell me any line ~ I’m buying.  You need me to agree far beyond what I’m comfortable, I’m your girl.  Why?  I was in need of a clue, searching avidly for it, but coming up clueless.

Even as I write, I feel what I once felt.

Now, after passing what I understand to be the halfway mark of my life (stark realization), a changed life I live.  By His power, my clueless living has given way to understanding.  I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I do claim to have a clue or two.

Clue #1:  I’m His daughter…

“For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.  The Spirit  you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again;  rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship.  And by him we cry, “Abba,Father.” ~ Romans 8:14,15 (NIV)

Clue #2:  I am a new person…

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” ~ 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NLT)

Clue #3:  I am His masterpiece…

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” ~ Ephesians 2:10 (NLT)

Clue #4:  I am His friend…

“No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you.” ~ John 15:15 (NKJV)

Clue #5:  I am His heir, a joint heir with Christ…

“But if we are children, we are also heirs. We are God’s heirs and fellow heirs with Christ, if we really suffer with him so that we can also be glorified with him.” ~ Romans 8:17 (CEB)

Clue #6:  I am a conqueror…

“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” ~ Romans 8:37 (ESV)

Clue #7:  I am chosen…

“My dear friends, God loves you, and we know he has chosen you to be his people.” 1 Thessalonians 1:4 (CEV)

Clue #8:  I am the salt of the earth…

“You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste (its strength, its quality), how can its saltness be restored? It is not good for anything any longer but to be thrown out and trodden underfoot by men.” ~ Matthew 5:13 (AMP)

Clue #9:  I can do all things through Christ…

“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” ~ Philippians 4:13 (KJV)

Clue #10:  I am His temple…

“Do you not know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?” ~ 1 Corinthians 3:16 (NASB)

Getting a clue doesn’t come from a roll of the dice.  Nor does it come from wishful or positive thinking.  It comes from the infallible, indisputable, holy written word.  An intentional acceptance of His word gave me the clues I needed to realize WHO I was.

I’m not aimless.

I’m not worthless.

I’m not clueless.

I’m His.

Linking with Word-Filled Wednesday, Living-Well Wednesdays and Walk With Him Wednesdays


  • Laura Krokos

    Good post Stephanie! And I love those pictures!! So fun.

    • StefanieYoungBrown

       Thank you, Laura!!

  • http://Intentional.ME/ Shell @2BeStill

    Beautiful post, Stefanie!  I love how God is leading us down such similar paths… We don’t see each other face to face often enough, but when I see posts like this, I feel like I’m walking right by your side.  Great big *hugs* to you sister… You are LOVED.  :)

    • StefanieYoungBrown

      Thank you, Michelle.  I draw strength from our similar journeys.  I agree, we don’t see each other nearly enough, but knowing and seeing where He’s leading us both reminds me the beauty of the community of friends He’s given us.  I’m so blessed to call you friend!

  • Shelly Miller

    Beautiful photos of you Stefanie. Thank you for this reminder of who we truly are. I especially love the verse on being His masterpiece. I joined a study on the book of Ruth recently and that was our theme so it resonates deep. And you are lovely, inside and out.

    • StefanieYoungBrown

       Oh, Shelly… Each time I read from your site or have the pleasure of responding to your comment, I am blessed all the more.  Thank you for your sweet words.  The book of Ruth (a personal favorite) was the first book of the bible I ever studied inductively.  It was the first time the word truly became alive to me.  I appreciate your encouraging words.  They consistently lift the spirit within me.

  • Ms. Kathleen

    You have such a beautiful smile!  Oh, and this post is all so true. Our true identity of who we truly are must come from Christ or we live in a blurr, a fog who “who am I really?” I can so relate, been there for sure. And God continues to refine me and reveal to me the daughter I am meant to be. His is so faithful. Have a fabulous day :)

    • StefanieYoungBrown

       Thank you, Kathleen!  Yes! Our identify is completely and totally in and from Him.  I’m so thankful we don’t have to live in a clueless state of being.  He’s clued us in, continues to refine us and LOVES beyond all measure.  It doesn’t get better than that!

  • Stephanie Glidden

    God has reallly been writing on my heart lately the truth of who I am in Him and what I am to Him. It’s hard to understand sometimes, harder to accept. This was a beautiful post

    • StefanieYoungBrown

       It is difficult to accept.  When we see Him we see who we truly are.  So thankful He chose to look passed, reach out and cleans us through His beautiful blood.  We absolutely don’t deserve it, but I’m so thankful His love for us is greater.  Thank you, Stephanie!

  • in wonder

    this is a beautiful post. so true. happy day to you!

    • StefanieYoungBrown

       Thank you!!

  • Mary Bonner

    I love this Stefanie!!  It truly speaks to me.  I have been so…I don’t know what…lately but this speaks to me.  Thank you friend!

    • StefanieYoungBrown

       Mary!!!!!!!  So good to see and hear from you.

      I’m so thankful His word through me spoke to you.  It was all over me, too.

      Love you and hope to see you soon!